Founder of The deVinery where you can explore the psychology behind great sex and how to play with it on purpose. Retired sex worker, pro domme and somatic sexologist who now writes about sex and teaches the art of Purposeful Adult Playdates in the bedroom. Exploring our turn-ons intentionally not only leads to more pleasure and better relating but is also a way to encounter all layers of ourselves. ArtemisiadeVine.com
Why we are turned on by out-of-character "darkness"
Calling those who get aroused by things that go against their everyday characters, identity, and even self worth.
Just like our fairytales, woven through the human erotic psyche are themes of power abuse, revenge, humiliation and violence.
And just like fairytales, these sexual fantasies play an important psychological function.
When we are unaware of their function they leak into our everyday behaviour and into our sexual encounters in wobbly, unconscious, and sometimes harmful ways.
What is more, when we blindly follow, or suppress, these desires, we miss the point. We get caught in a cycle that can bring a high, but does not ever truly satiate, needing hit after hit. Or we cut off a vital source of richness within us and become unbalanced.
That is, incomplete. Not whole.
When we are aware and can play with our desires and fantasies purpose, they can be portals to the rich fullness of our being. There is deep magic in embodying yin yang wholeness.
Do you want to re-enchant your sex life with the power of fantasy brought to life through symbolic play?
But where do you go to learn how to do this? I mean really do it. How do you make sense of your turn ons and actually slurp the nectar of your erotic psyche?
This is your invitation to be mentored into this erotic art form!
Begin the application process by booking a complimentary 15 min zoom chat with me.
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Artemisia de Vine
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Artemisia de Vine
Founder of The deVinery where you can explore the psychology behind great sex and how to play with it on purpose. Retired sex worker, pro domme and somatic sexologist who now writes about sex and teaches the art of Purposeful Adult Playdates in the bedroom. Exploring our turn-ons intentionally not only leads to more pleasure and better relating but is also a way to encounter all layers of ourselves. ArtemisiadeVine.com
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